Hello you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻
‘Are you really listening.. or are you just waiting for your turn to talk?’
Because, there’s a huge difference.
Or rather, the difference is extreme, because one thing creates a huge problem in relationships and communication, while the other brings people closer together. One thing burns bridges and another builds them.
So stop for a moment and give yourself answers to these questions: are you present when you talk to someone? Do you listen to someone to understand them? Are you sure you understand that person.. what kind of answers do you give them? Are you asking questions for the sake of order or do you intend to get to know someone better?
Then.. what are those questions you ask.. they will show you what your interest in life is and will say more about you than their answers about them. Yes, for example there are limited questions.. because they are asked by limited people.
Are you listening to understand or to reply?
Make sure you are not one of them:
Some people will ask you how you are, and before you finish the sentence, they will start talking about how they are, without being asked.. and usually complaining about something.
Some people will ask you how you are doing, so they can start the conversation.. and usually wanting something else.
Some people will ask you how you are doing because they are curious to know what is happening in your life.. so they can have something to talk about.. with other people. Small minds.
Some will ask you how you are, because that’s how they’ve been taught that it’s polite, and dare I say it, if you say you’re not well, they’ll instantly regret the question they asked.. oh how polite it is.
Rarely who will ask you how you’re doing because they care about you and your wellbeing. Rarely who will be interesting to learn something new from you, by simply listening what you have to say. Treasure those people.
Such a simple and wonderful question: ‘How are you?’, which is misused. Abused.
Because instead of showing that people care about someone, it shows that they only care about themselves.
So next time.. before you start a conversation, be aware of everything I said.
Try not to stress over it, not even arguing about it.. instead try to understand people’s behaviour, but don’t forget to ask yourself are you one of them too?
Focus on improving your communications skills. The same goes for exchanging different perspectives over the same thing. People usually hear what they want to hear, not what you said.
There is no point of losing your inner peace over someone who is not capable of understanding basic things. In this case it doesn’t matter whether you’re right or wrong. If you two are not on the same level of consciousness it is pointless, not just to start an argue.. it is pointless to even exchange different opinions. People who can’t understand you, will always think that you want to argue.. just because you have a different opinion over the same thing.
Choose to keep your inner peace over being right.
If you choose to argue because you know that you’re right.. you directly enter into the battlefield without an end. It is impossible to prove that you’re right to someone who doesn’t see the things as you do. So.. control your ego.. and choose your peace.
Choose your battles wisely.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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