Hello you beautiful soul! 🌏🙏
To be kind or to be polite? That is the question.
NEVER NEVER ask someone how they feel if you truly don’t want to know that and listen to their answer.
Does fake politeness truly serve?
Are you fine?
One of the biggest lies is: “I’m fine”.
We been taught that being polite means if someone asks us how we are, we should reply with “I’m fine.”
And.. I can agree to some extent.. Yes, ‘I’m fine’ SOUNDS polite. And yes, you shouldn’t go around opening yourself, about your life, problems to everyone. Or complaining for sake of it.
If you don’t feel fine, but you say: ‘I’m ok/good/fine’ does politeness really matter here? YOU ARE NOT OKAY.. AND YOU NEED HELP.. and that’s what matters.
You don’t have to lie. A lie sounds better, which is not kind.
You can say how you feel and still be kind. Of course, it depends on who asks, as well. Not all deserve to know it. Not all want to know how you truly feel, because they care about you.
Very often we think that others won’t understand us.
Why would people lie about how they feel?
People don’t say how the feel because VERY OFTEN, instead of being listened to and understood, they get some ridiculous stereotypical response like: oh you will be fine. You re strong..
No shit Jenny.. didn’t know that!? Thank you for opening my eyes.
Then.. Mostly because they fear other people’s reaction. They are afraid that people will look at them differently or maybe they will be rejected, proclaimed crazy..
So instead of working on themselves to find the reason why they feel bad.. or opening to someone they trust.. people continue to maintain their fake image and how wonderful they feel.. bottling up their emotions, becoming unhappy.
So what to do..
Firstly, please, please know that there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t feel ok.
Spend some time alone to figure out what bothers you.
Surround yourself with those you can open up to.
If you need professional help, ask for it!
But never, never say again that you’re ok, if you don’t feel ok.
AND NEVER NEVER ask someone how they feel if you truly don’t want to know that and listen to their answer.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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