Hello you beautiful soul! 🌏🙏
Please.. Don’t lose yourself trying to love someone! Love yourself first, because.. do you think you love yourself if you stay somewhere where you’re treated poorly?
We accept the love we think we deserve! And if you think that you are not loved in the way that you should be.. remember that what we allow it will continue. We teach others how to treat us, by what we allow and what we stop.. hence it all starts with knowing and loving oneself.
Many people don’t know what love is. Self love firstly.
‘I dated someone for 1 year and 4 months and went to bed crying every night wondering if I would ever get better. I’m now dating a guy that treats me like a princess and has a genuinely good heart. Get out of that shitty relationship and find someone who deserves you and treats you good!’
It’s so easy to fall in love with someone, or at least to be attracted to someone. Physical attraction is common.
People call love very different, sometimes very extreme ways.. usually because we have inherited and adopted beliefs and strange definitions for love. For instance: to love is to suffer. If it hurts, then must be love.
Heck no! Neither of those is true.
Usually, we learned those beliefs from our parents, and they from theirs and so on.
Many people follow blindly what society imposes on us, forgetting that they are also ‘society’.. so, they just accept these beliefs and continue to live according to them by default.. without even questioning any of them..
Luckily.. Not all live that way, though.
As well.. we learned that love is to tolerate mistreatments. We know that usually every relationship starts fabulously, and you think.. oh that’s it. He/she is the one! The truth is that many aren’t showing their true face at the beginning, their rather show an image of themselves in order to be liked and loved.
And then after a while when people stop pretending and they can’t pretend for too long, when they show their true character.. you start to accept all that goes with that.. even mistreatments, abuses, lack of respect thinking.. oh that’s how it should be. I love them. They will change. That’s love. Love hurts. I know he/she loves me but.. and then people usually find some excuse to justify someone’s bad behaviour.
And you lose yourself. You lose yourself because no one taught you to love yourself! To know what love, respect and nurturing relationship means.
Don’t lose yourself trying to love someone!
Please.. Don’t confuse love with a poor weak character, immaturity and bad education!
If someone treats you like a sh.t.. if you cry, if you wonder where you’re standing at, if you don’t feel happy, if you feel drained, exhausted.. None of these is love, darling. Where there is love there are no questions!
Do yourself a favour and leave any kind of relationship that doesn’t make you feel loved, respected, appreciated.
Love heals. Love is divine and essential. You should learn how to love yourself first in order to know how to love others.
You deserve love. Love yourself first, because.. do you think you love yourself if you stay somewhere where you’re treated poorly? So.. Don’t lose yourself trying to love someone!
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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