‘If you can cheat on your partner and come home, look them in the eye and tell them you love them, then you’re the lowest kind of person that exists.’
It is a whole other level of disrespect. Because betrayal is painful.. but betrayal while pretending to love someone is something else entirely. It goes beyond betrayal. It becomes deception, disrespect and emotional violence.
Cheating is much more than ‘just’ kissing or having sex with someone else.
If you do things behind your partner’s back.. you are already there. Messaging other people secretly, flirting with other people, deleting conversations before coming home, feeding attraction in silence, looking for something outside the relationship, hiding friendships.. these are only some examples.
Sometimes emotional cheating can hurt much more than physical cheating.
Anyhow..
Why would you hurt the person you supposedly love? What kind of person betrays someone they claim to love? Well.. perhaps there was not much love there to begin with. And first of all.. not much self-love either.
Dear.. understand this.. that is not love. Because first and foremost, if you do not respect yourself, you will struggle to respect others. And if you do not know how to love yourself, you will struggle to love someone else properly as well.
And respect should be fundamental for any relationship.
Let’s face another fact. We all have eyes, right? We see beautiful people everywhere. I am sure we have all met someone we found attractive while being in a relationship. Of course we have. Don’t lie. Because attraction itself is natural and normal. Lying is not.
It is also a moment to honestly reconsider how you feel within your relationship and to share those feelings with your partner. Do not normalize cheating.. normalize these conversations instead. Because attraction happens to everyone. Silence and secrecy are what create problems.
Attraction is normal. Acting on it is a decision. A conscious decision. And that is where respect, responsibility and common sense come into play. Use common sense instead of basic instinct. You are not an animal.
Cheating is not an accidental mistake, but a conscious decision!
That’s why before you decide to betray your partner.. stop. It is the moment when you should question your current relationship. Your intentions. Both intentions toward your partner and toward the one with whom you are cheating on your partner.
If you fall in love with someone else while you are in a relationship or marriage, yes, that can happen too.. BREAK UP before you go any further..
Therefore, even if you no longer love the person you are with.. that is still not a reason to cheat on your partner. Breaking up is a solution, so is divorce.. BUT cheating is not a solution. It’s an excuse and an escape. YOUR INTENTIONAL CHOICE!
When you are in a relationship, you are not only responsible for yourself, but for another human being as well. That human being should be the person you love most.. who gave you their heart TRUSTING YOU not to betray them and not to hurt them. They entrust you with their heart. They give you their most vulnerable self.. so how can you betray that?
How would you feel? Would you like that to happen to you? Maybe it already happened to you, so you know how much pain you experienced. Then.. think about it.
And think about this: if you and your partner exchanged phones for twenty-four hours without deleting a single thing beforehand.. would you still be together?
If your relationship depends on deleted messages staying deleted.. your problem is not your partner. You are the problem.
This isn’t the only text. But today, it might be enough.