Hello you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻
Many people will want you, but not want to love. There is a difference between wanting you and wanting to love you. Choose to be loved and not to be used.
This is so important to understand..
Many people will love the idea of you but very few will accept the reality of you. People confuse these things.
Do you want to be wanted or loved?
Do you want to be desired or respected?
Learn the difference.. simply.. if it doesn’t feel good.. that’s not love. If you don’t feel good.. that’s not love..
Choose the one who accepts and love you for who you are, not for what you can give them.. go for the one who appreciates and respects what you give and who you are.. not because of your look. Be with the one who is proud of you and grateful for having you in their life.
And then.. there’s a difference between a man who needs you and a man who wants your soul next to his. There’s a difference between a boy who kinda likes you and a man who wants you. There’s difference between lust and love.
Learn the difference.
(And this applies to women too)
Love knows no attachment.. love knows commitment. Love is not living with someone.. love is living for someone.
‘When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride – it’s self-respect. Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.’
If someone treats you like a joke, leave them like it’s funny.
Never prioritize someone who treats you as an option! Why would you do that? I mean, I am not someone who can order or force you to see your value or how to live your life, which partners to choose. You choose.
As usual, I’m just trying to help you love and appreciate yourself. Therefore the questions follows: Do you see yourself as an option? Do you like it when you give everything to someone and they look at you as just one of their options? When they are only there when they need you, because they know you are always there!
Is this the love you want? Is there love at all? If you are in such a situation and you say that you like it.. then ok! YOU DO YOU.
And if you don’t like how it makes you feel, then end such relationships. Turn to yourself, and give all that love and energy that you give to someone, to yourself. It will be strange at first.. because you are not used to it. Maybe painful when you wake up and realize how you invested yourself in something that didn’t bring you love. And that’s ok. It’s just a phase. And mainly any waking up is not pleasant because you become aware that it is mainly you who inflicted pain on yourself. Or participated in it.
So spend time alone and dedicate time to yourself.
When you learn what your values and standards are, you won’t allow anyone to see you differently. In fact, you will never choose a partner who does not respect you and all that you give. Because you can’t control how others see you, but you can choose who you’ll be with.
Know your values and stay away from those who don’t value you. Don’t force anyone to love you or make time for you.
Love should go naturally, freely and when it comes to relationships it should go in both directions.
Remember when someone really wants in their life THEY MAKE TIME FOR YOU.
Never waste your time on convincing someone you’re worth loving. Never. If they can’t see that.. let them go! You deserve the love, the love you give.
So.. If someone treats you like a joke, leave them like it’s funny.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul!
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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