Hello you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
If you think that (I’m) someone is being extra just because (I) they love expressing (myself) themselves.. or if you feel that the way they carry themselves is making you think they’re better than you.. or if someone’s presence intimidates you.. or if someone’s way of thinking is making you feel uncomfortable.. (I) it is not ABOUT THEM, it is ABOUT YOU! You have a problem with you, not with them!
These games of manipulation are so common, and unfortunately, many are not aware of it. It is especially often seen in families, primarily in love relationships. In such situations, it is enough for only one person to be aware of it, so that they either move away from the other person.. or that the person doing it realize what they are doing and start working on themself.
People are NOT crazy because they:
– have guts to think for themselves and express how they feel
– are brave enough to work on themselves and their growth
– are bold to follow their hearts.
Understand that such people have no problem expressing their feelings and opinions WITHOUT ARGUING or INSULTING others. Be sure that such people do not intend to impose their opinion on others, as people like GASLIGHTERS do to them. They just want to express themselves, and you not only don’t let them, but you mock them and try to make them question their reality!
And we know why it happens.. Gaslighting is an insidious form of psychological manipulation and control.
So please.. make sure that you’re not one of those who gaslight others.
If you try to minimize and disrespect someone’s feelings, just to make yourself feel better and justify your thinking and behavior.. instead of trying to make them crazy, ask for help.
If you’re triggered by other people’s lives.. if you judge them for their way of being.. it doesn’t define them, but you! What awakens in you is what you need to work on.
Because YOU SHOULD NOT make others feel small in order to accommodate them to your insecurities.
If you’re one of those people who tell others they are arguing every time:
– their opinion is different than yours
– they don’t behave the way you want
– they want to express themselves
– they tell you how THEY feel..
do yourself and others a favour.. stop for a moment and think what you are doing!
Then.. it should be your starting point to work on yourself! Try to understand instead of trying to manipulate!
Unfortunately, this is the behavior of deeply unconscious people, so they won’t even find themselves in these words. You never know though..
And..
Every time someone makes you question your sanity (let’s assume it’s sanity).. stay away from such people. These are not your people.
Don’t stay in manipulative relationships, as I said, one conscious person is enough.
And.. Stay away from those who think you’re arguing when all you try to do is to explain them they’re crossing your boundaries.
Don’t remove your boundaries, rather remove these people.
If others don’t respect your boundaries.. ask yourself do you respect your boundaries? We teach others how to treat us by what we allow and what we stop. So don’t ask why they keep doing it, start asking why you keep allowing it.
Remember you’re setting your boundaries to respect yourself not to offend others. People will get upset, of course they will! But that’s only a sign that your boundaries are needed. So try to be comfortable with others who don’t feel comfortable with your boundaries.
It’s ok to end relationships, close circles anytime you don’t feel respected/your needs, freedom. What is not ok is to tolerate someone’s misbehaviour.
But most importantly.. respect other people’s boundaries!
Because you’re free. So are others. Your freedom ends where other people’s freedom starts and vice versa.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul!
Love and namaste,
Irina 🦄💙
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