Hello you beautiful soul! 🌏🙏
Is she/he high maintenance or are you just low effort?
‘Just because she has high standards doesn’t mean she’s high maintenance. Do not confuse the two.’
This applies to both men and women.
Have you ever thought when you say for someone that is ‘too much’, at the same time you’re saying for yourself that you are “too little”. If you say that someone is ‘too profound’, you’re saying for yourself that you’re shallow. Or if you say that someone has high standards.. you’re saying for yourself.. you already got it, right?
Do you really expect someone to lower their standards just to make you feel comfortable.. or you see that as a possibility to level up..?
When someone is not on your level, if you’re not ready to reach their standards or depth.. admire them, rather than labelling them in the wrong way and taking things out of context. If they look unconquerable, unreachable or inaccessible, maybe you are not approaching them the right way.. so, think about this and change something or let them go! Just don’t label others.. that’s your ego always wanting to be right and superior.
Keep in mind that your effort is reflection of your interest in someone! And vice versa!
Then.. we are like mirrors to each other.. so, whenever you give your opinion on someone.. you’re not defining them, but yourself!
No matter how much you want someone if you don’t SHOW your interest (love) in someone and your relationship.. you’re giving up on them. If you like someone.. never be afraid to show them how you feel about them! Never suppress how you feel and never think that you are not worthy of someone. Or that someone can’t love you!
Usually, these fears lead to the judgments of others, which people use as an excuse to cover up their lack of interest and action (self-defence and justification). So, it is easier to give up and stay in your comfort zone, where everything seems familiar.
Relationship is built. You have to want to be there, to care, to trust, you need to take out time, to adjust, to communicate, you should be ready for commitment.. if you care, you need NOT TO GIVE UP! And all of these have to be mutual!
However.. If you don’t feel ready for someone.. let them go! They are not yours to keep. They are someone else’s blessing. Just don’t stand at the door.. blocking the traffic by judging them and wanting to change them.. simply, move on and wait for someone who is your match.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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