Hello you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
It’s not you vs. your partner. Rather it is you & your partner vs. an issue. You should be a team and not opponents.
The point is not who is right. The point is not who loses or wins in arguments. As long as you think like that, you both just lose, nobody wins.
When it is important to you to be right, or to both of you, you allow your ego to guide you. There is no solution for both, only the satisfaction of the one who proves that they are right. And ok you are right.. and then what?
The ego is looking for victories, to be right, to feel superior, so that what it identifies itself with is not called into question.. and there is no love there, but food for the ego and satisfying the needs of selfishness.
It is very important that you understand this, because misunderstandings, discussions will exist in the relationship. That’s why communication, healthy communication must come into play.
You both have to communicate in a healthy way and to control your ego.
A healthy way is definitely not the desire to win arguments.
Ask yourself, what is your approach when you encounter an obstacle in a relationship? How do you approach solving the same?
Hey.. so what’s the point of arguing and wanting to be right against your loved one, your person? You should be a TEAM.
The point is not to argue, but to communicate. If you see that a fight is inevitable, walk away. When you both calm your heads, try to talk. To understand, see and hear each other!
It doesn’t matter if you are right, but that you have your own peace. To nurture your relationship and build it. You will never have peace if you always want to prove that you are right. It’s a waste of time.
Rather, ask yourself what proving that you are right brings you.. and what about the relationship?
Many arguments would be avoided if people knew to communicate in a healthy way. This requires, first of all, understanding what healthy communication is, then the desire for the same and practicing it.
Many arguments would be avoided and things would be much simpler if people were honest. First of all, towards themselves. Because everything starts from there. From self-love.
Your partner and you should not be against each other, but the two of you against problems, challenges. You two need to act as a team. You should complement each other and not compete.
Every misunderstanding is an opportunity to get to know each other more, and also yourself, thereby deepening the relationship. And that’s the point.
The point is that you both feel good and safe in the relationship and that you strive to understand each other and reach a mutual agreement. And even when the agreement is that you agree to disagree about the same thing. It is respect.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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