Hello you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Just because you can take it doesn’t mean you have to!
‘A history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. Just because you can take it doesn’t mean you have to. You really don’t have to!’
Please read this again. Let this sink in.
We all have “traumas”. The questions are.. are you aware of them, and what are you doing about them?
Holding on your traumas and accepting them as something normal.. it is not normal at all.
Please, let go of anything that weighs you down. Solve traumas and break patterns – set boundaries and close circles, finish chapters, speak up for yourself whenever you feel oppressed, disrespectful, because you’re not only standing up for yourself but also for the future generations.
There’s nothing impressive nor brave by being a “victim of circumstances”, blaming parents, family or anyone on the circumstances of life.
You can’t change life.. but you can change yourself.
It’s up to you whether you will choose to be a victim and let the life harden you, accepting unhealthy life patterns, PARTICIPATING in your own pain.. or you will choose to work on yourself and face “traumas” showing compassion and empathy for others.
Remember your past is not holding you back. You’re holding on your past.
Just because you can’t take it it doesn’t mean you have to. Suffering is optional, suffering is not a superpower.
And another thing.. be careful when choosing your partner.
‘Women, you are not rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix him, change him, parent him. You want a partner, not a project.’ (vice versa)
Please, understand that there are many broken parents raising broken children.. many unsatisfied parents raising children by passing on their unfulfilled wishes to them. Many parents push their children to achieve their unfulfilled desires, instead of letting their children find what they want on their own. Many parents push their kids forcing them to pursue their broken dreams, instead of letting the kid to follow their dreams..
So understand that it is not your job to raise your partner! Your responsibility is to raise YOUR kids and to be responsible for your actions.
When look for your partner look for your equal, not your project. Just because you can take it doesn’t mean you have to!
SOME PARENTS ARE THE FIRST BULLIES OF THEIR CHILDREN..
They bully their kids because they have been bullied too.. and they are not even aware of that! They accepted it as something normal and continue that tradition.
Someone needs to break that cycle. Don’t be afraid to be that ‘someone’.
And about..
Over protective mothers who affect their children’s personality. They are usually overprotective towards their sons.. It’s an attachment that can be very toxic.
To all women: Oh.. when you meet ‘your’ guy.. please meet his mother too. 😁
It can be a really hard work for you to explain and for them to understand that you are not his mother.. I’ve been there. You need a man, not a child. You should be his woman, not his therapist. (vice versa!)
That’s their job (Only if they want to solve it..), not yours. So if they are not open to understand.. then it can be very draining for you. Be careful when choosing when to have patience and when you’re wasting your time.
Don’t lose yourself trying to fix others. There are people who get paid for this, their name is: psychologist, therapist..
Remember: Just because you can take it doesn’t mean you have to!
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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