Hello you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻

Know that cheating has nothing to do with self-love.

I wonder how many couples would still stay together if they switched their phone for 24 hours.

Cheating is so much more than a physical interaction.

‘Cheating doesn’t mean you have to kiss, meet or have sex with someone else. Once you find yourself deleting messages so your partner will not see them, then you are already there.’

If you have to sneak to do something, hide something for not being caught up, delete it to keep it like a secret, lie to cover it up.. darling, you should and you need to be single.

But what kind of life do you live and what kind of person are you if you do any of these behind your partners back? How would you feel if you discover that your partner has done something similar behind your back? And if you say that you love your partner.. but you message someone else?? Really?

Omg.. it must be really hard to live that way..

You know.. there is one thing about cheating.. people who lack self respect are those who cheat. Hence why they can’t respect others. People who are not loyal to themselves could never be loyal to someone.

If your partner is not your best friend.. what is the point of having a relationship?

So again.. Why people cheat? Darling.. because they don’t love themselves. They don’t respect themselves. Only when you know what self-respect truly is.. will you teach others to respect you and to respect them. Cheating shows everything but respect.

If you’re doing something secretly, behind someones’ back.. and you don’t want anyone to find out, you probably shouldn’t be doing it. Isn’t that a sign to you already?

Always ask yourself if you would like someone to do that to you.. what are you doing to someone? Then why are you doing this to another?

You deserve the love you give.

‘If you don’t want anyone to find out about it then don’t do it.’

So let’s start from the beginning. Everything starts with ourselves. We all should learn to be alone. And.. what self-love and self respect is.

That’s the only way to learn how to respect and love others and to be respect and loved in return.

Being alone and feeling lonely are two completely different things.

Being single and feeling lonely, as well, are two completely different things.

I enjoy being alone. Being in relationship or not, I love me time. So if I enjoy my time, I can’t feel lonely, right? I don’t depend on others.

The truth is.. the loneliest people I know, are in relationships, and/or surrounded with many people. All the time. Staying alone is a complete nightmare for them.

If you learn to love yourself..

..if you practice being your best friend.. most of the time you won’t feel lonely.. I said most of the time, because, for sure, it will come the day when you won’t feel at your best.

On the other hand having someone by your side, it won’t help to fill your loneliness.. Because, again, sooner or later, loneliness will appear again. So instead of learning how to be alone and happy, people jump into relationships, changing partners to avoid changing themselves. What happens next is that you will think that the problem is in your partner.. so you will start blaming them. So instead of leaving them, most probably you will look for quick remedies, like looking for something on the side.. again looking for someone else who will make you happy and less lonely. Just because you look for happiness in others..

That is so wrong.

Why? Because.. happiness is something you find within. Because you should learn how to be alone and happy, instead of jumping into relationships or constantly looking to spend time with people just because you have the belief that something or someone else is the remedy for your loneliness.

You should not emotionally depend on others.. and letting other people dictate how they feel.

And..

If you don’t learn how to be alone and happy, you will never be able to be with someone and feel truly happy. You will constantly depend emotionally on others.. creating toxic attachments.

And remember.. You deserve the love you give. So if you cheat.. just saying..
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🏻🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 🦄💙
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Irina

So, let me introduce myself. My name is Irina Vujaklija and I was born in Belgrade on 31 January 1979. Who am I? Love. I know, you will roll your eyes.. But that is how it is. Discovering my true self wasn’t an easy process. Constantly working on myself, learning by seeking answers to many questions, I have managed to overcome very complicated life situations. Among other things, my severe motorcycle accident in 2004. A life altering moment in just one second.