Hello you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻
Looking for love? Start with loving yourself.
Some people keep changing partners to avoid changing themselves!
This is such a common thing, that I would not know where to begin.. There are so many issues.. but the most important one is lack of self love.
We all want to be loved. Who doesn’t? But changing partners to avoid changing yourself isn’t love, darling. You’re running away from yourself.
Many people believe that others are responsible for their happiness. So they jump from relationship to relationship looking for that feeling. That is so wrong.
Giving someone responsibility to make you happy when you can’t do it on your own is selfishness. It has nothing to do with love.
It is necessary to spend time alone. Change starts with yourself. Only and only when you learn how to be happy alone, you will be able to be happy with someone. Learn to love yourself. Set standards. Know your values.
You can escape from one relationship to another, but you will never be able to escape from yourself. Don’t get addicted to escaping. Face your shit. Face what you’re running from and what you’re looking for. Find your peace.
Your happiness is your responsibility. You and your partner should be happy individually. Only then you will realise that there’s no attachment, but willing to commit and share your happiness together.
Love yourself so much that you know your boundaries and what self respect is!
Returning to someone after they’ve shown you they can’t respect your boundary is showing them that you don’t respect it either!
Every relationship is built. But like I said previously, it all starts with ourselves and self love.You teach others how to treat you.
By this I don’t mean that you should come with a spoiler.. even tho that would make the life easier. Unfortunately, we don’t come with instructions for use. However.. you teach others how to treat you by what you allow and what you stop in your life.
Therefore you should know your limits, what you like or don’t. You should know how to express yourself vocally when something doesn’t feel right, when someone hurts you.
If you don’t know how to love and respect yourself, you can’t expect from others to know that. You can’t change people unless they want to change. You either accept the person as they are or not.
So please don’t let someone get comfortable with disrespecting you. If you constantly have to tell someone the same exact thing and they don’t change it, you have a clear picture here.. understand that they don’t respect you. But I’m sure they don’t even respect themselves.
If you return back to them.. darling, you don’t respect yourself. You should do quite opposite and let them go.
Returning to someone after they’ve shown you they can’t respect your boundaries is showing them that you don’t either.
Set your boundaries. Know your values and standards and speak about everything.
Respect and trust are part of love.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul!
Love and namaste,
Irina 🦄💙
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