Hello you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Never feel bad for outgrowing people and leaving them where they are.
The point of life is in becoming who you really are, in constant growth and development, but also finding your inner peace, thus living in harmony with yourself.
When you understand this and live in accordance with it, then no one can make you feel guilty for choosing yourself, your health.
And people will try to make you feel guilty. Maybe you will allow them to succeed in that. And maybe you will blame yourself. Everything depends on you.
I repeat, guilt should not exist at all. Or shame. Never feel bad for outgrowing people.
There should be acceptance. Just like when you meet people, you meet them where they are and accept it. Also when you outgrow the people you were in a relationship with, you leave them where they are. Not because you don’t love them, but because such relationships become exhausting, if only one partner strive to learn, wants to grow.
Then, you should understand that we all have the potential for growth. But not everyone uses it. You also need to understand that sometimes we grow in opposite ways. And then, no matter how painful it is, you need to communicate and allow both of you to choose.. looking for a solution. And the solution is also ending the relationship, the marriage. Because the essence is love, not suffering.
There is no forcing in any healthy relationship, and especially not in love relationships. There should be fluidity, understanding and respect.
That’s why it’s important to ask yourself, how do you feel? How is your partner feeling? And to communicate always.
When someone makes you feel guilty because you decided to get out of a relationship that doesn’t bring you good.. that’s not the love of the person you were with. But they need you. A sign of manipulation.
And sometimes you’ll feel bad because you’re leaving the person you were with.. and that’s ok! But there is no need to blame yourself. You saw the potential, now look at the reality.
If people refuse to grow, flourish and become a better version of themselves, you cannot force them to do so. You can just accept it and either to stay in such a relationship or to get out of it.
If you decide to stay where you can’t grow, don’t blame your partner, that’s your decision.
The relationship should feel fulfilling. You should care about each other and build your relationship. You both should have a similar vision of the relationship. To support, complement, help each other, to become better people.
And it is understandable that separating from people can be painful, but if you do it for the right reasons, then it is necessary.
Don’t shrink yourself just to please others. And never feel bad or guilty for outgrowing people and leaving them where they are.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏💙
Love and namaste,
Irina
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