Hello you beautiful soul! 🌏🙏
What about people who never really loved us? So much of what we learn about love is taught by people who never really loved us.
Check your relationships. And you will see it. Some of them were not love. Some of them were necessary so you can learn what you DON’T want.
Have you learned to love yourself? To be you, real you. Because, we are not taught that. Nor the importance and essence of self-love.
We are taught to please others, to seek happiness in others, to be slaves to other people’s opinions, to tolerate mistreatments.. But how to love ourselves.. not really.
And.. everything starts there.. with self-love.
Lack of self-love is the main reason for suffering and unhappiness, sadness, why something hurts you.
You’re attached to people who ignore you.
You make space in life for those who are “too busy” for you.
You give too much time to those who ignore you.. EXPECTING them to love you.. just because you love them.
You expect people to change, to start respecting you.. instead of changing yourself.
As you can see.. it’s not about them, but you. Even though they give you a clear picture, you decide to paint a new one.
Another thing.. We teach others how to treat us, by what we allow and what we stop. Don’t ask yourself why they hurt you over and over again.. ask yourself why do you keep letting them do that? Of course, you can’t make them stop or wanting them to change but you can always choose to leave.
That’s why partners who hurt us, who did not know how to love us, should teach us some lessons from love. (Maybe) They didn’t know how to love themselves, either.
So, check your relationships. Some of them were not love.
Some of them were necessary so you can learn what you DON’T want. Some of them were created to fill a void of loneliness, fear.. some of them you confused for lust, wanting badly to turn them into love and you turned them into a toxic relationship.
We learn so much about love from experiencing what love is not! BUT only if you have an open mind for this.
These are just replacements for love you didn’t give yourself. You were desperately looking in others to love you, to complete you, to fill the void, not thinking that you can give it all to yourself.
Choose yourself, love yourself and stay away from anything that isn’t love.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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