Hello you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻
If someone treats you like a joke, leave them like it’s funny.
Never prioritize someone who treats you like an option. Know your values and stay away from those who don’t value you. Don’t force anyone to love you or make time for you. Love should come naturally, freely and it goes in both directions.
And if they really want you in their lives, they would make time for you. Never waste your time on convincing someone you’re worthy of being loved and cared for. Never. If they can’t see that.. let them go! You deserve all the love, all the love you give.
“When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride – it’s self-respect. Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.”
And stay away from cowards!
If you weren’t lucky enough to find the right person for you, quickly.. You’ll kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince or princess.
Don’t despair, but learn what love is from all the relationships that weren’t love. I always repeat this, because it is very important to understand: we learn a lot about love by going through relationships that were not love.
Unfortunately, many people do not learn their lessons, but prefer to think that they are not lucky in love, that everyone is the same.. because they choose similar partners and in the end give up thinking that true love does not exist or that they were not lucky enough to meet true love.
Listen, if your partners are always similar, it doesn’t mean that we are all the same or that love doesn’t exist.. but that you haven’t learned your lesson! Therefore you choose the same or similar relationships. And it will be like that until you learn the lesson and apply what you have learned. Until then, life will send you similar people, and you are the one who chooses what to do.
The lesson should have been: what you don’t want and what is not love.
That’s why you have to learn what love is. And it all starts with self-love.
When you learn to love yourself, you will learn many things, among other things, to discern what kind of relationship is healthy and love.
Then.. you should pay attention to energy and actions, not words.
Because people lie. But their actions do not. Their energy does not.
Pay attention to how someone treats you, and don’t try to paint a new picture when they show you their real face and how they feel about you. Believe them.
How someone treats you says how they feel about themselves, too. It is not up to you to change them. It’s up to you to point out and say what you don’t like. So always ask yourself how you feel: fulfilled, calm or exhausted and restless? Then communicate everything with your partner.
Because.. love should heal you, not hurt you. Love is not a form.. love is an essence.
Love is.. to live for somebody. Love is not to live with somebody. Learn the difference.
Stay away from cowards and don’t be a coward.
“The cowards are the ones who say ‘I love you’ but never intend to stay. The cowards are the ones who tell you that you’re beautiful and worth it while treating you like shit. The cowards claim to miss you but never show up. Stay away from the cowards.”
So.. be mindful about what and how you’re sacrificing so as who you’re sacrificing for!
Read this again. Please.
“That person you’re making sacrifices for will one day turn around and tell you they didn’t ask you too.. and they’ll be right.”
When you’re making “sacrifices” are you doing it from your heart with love? Or because you’re expecting something in return?
Do you get angry if their reactions to your sacrifices is not like you expected them to be?
And take a moment to think: Do you give someone love the way they need and want or the way you want to be loved? So you may think they should be loved the same way?
It’s a huge difference.
And please.. Do it with love or don’t do it at all. Especially.. Don’t do a f.cking thing if you are going to throw it in someone’s face later.
Whatever you give.. you shouldn’t have any expectations back, other than respect. If you see that they don’t respect you and what you give.. it is time for you to move on.. Again, be mindful about what and how you’re sacrificing so as who you’re sacrificing for. Sacrifice should not feel like sacrifice.. if you know what I mean..
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul!
Love and namaste,
Irina
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