Good morning you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻
The ways we learn about true love are countless.. I believe that, speaking of past relationships, there were no right or wrong partners.
I believe they were all right ones and just what we needed, some lesson we had to learn at the time.
If you keep attracting more or less similar partners into your life, it means that the lesson has not been learned. Yet, usually, people will rather think: oh they are all the same..
No, dear, we are not all the same. You just need to change something if you wish different result. Start changing yourself, instead of changing partners.
Maybe you should be grateful for those who didn’t know how to love you. Maybe they showed you exactly what kind of partner you DON’T want.
But it’s always easier to blame others instead of taking responsibility for your own unhappiness.
The truth is that love doesn’t hurt..
People who don’t know how to love you may hurt you. Relationships don’t cause you pain and unhappiness, they can only bring out pain and unhappiness that is already within you.
So instead of blaming others for continuing to hurt you.. I’ll ask you why do you allow it? Instead of complaining that someone doesn’t know how to love you.. I will ask you do you know how to love yourself?
If someone doesn’t treat you right, treat yourself right and walk away.
Everything starts with self-love.
The ways we learn about true love are countless.
Have you learned to love yourself? Because no one taught us this. We’ve been taught to please others, to be slaves to other people’s opinions.. But how to love ourselves.. not really.
That is (was) the real reason why you’re hurting.. you’re attached to people who ignore you. You make space in life for those who are “too busy” for you. You give too much time to those who ignore you.. EXPECTING them to love you.
As you can see.. it’s not about them, but you. We teach others how to treat us, by what we allow and what we stop.
That’s why partners who hurt us, who did not know how to love us, should teach us some lessons from love. Maybe they don’t know how to love themselves either.
Check your relationships. Some of them were not love. As some of them were necessary so you can learn what you DON’T want. Some of them were created to fill a void of loneliness, fear.. some of them you confused for lust, wanting badly to turn them into love and you turned them into toxic relationship.
These are just replacements for love that you haven’t give to yourself. You were desperately looking in others to love you, to complete you, to fill the void, not thinking that you can give it all to yourself.
Stay away from anything that isn’t love.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🏻🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 🦄💙
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