Hello you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
‘Strong women intimidate boys.. and excite men.’
Dear strong woman, you are not intimidating. They are intimidated. There is a difference.
If someone says that you are intimidating.. mmm no.. You are not intimidating. They are intimidated. There’s a difference.
Again.. Dear strong women and men, you are not intimidating. They are intimidated.
Some will find it attractive or an opportunity to grow and learn, and some will let that fear guide them.. so they will run away from you, saying that you are intimidating – in a negative sense.
When I hear that I’m intimidating, and God knows how many time I’ve heard this.. I was always like.. why, oh why? I’m not. I’m just being me.
I understand that this is just a perception of other people.
I’m not intimidating. They are intimidated. There’s a huge difference.
How you see me, is not my responsibility. It won’t define me, either. Don’t project it on me.
So.. if someone is intimidated by you.. and they run away.. they’re not running away from you, but from themselves and parts of them they refuse to heal, work on, grow.
And, darling, they don’t deserve you.
I love to say, if a mas is intimidated by me, I like to say: okay, that’s exactly the type of man I don’t want in my life.
If my presence intimidates you & you feel uncomfortable trying to drag me down, to change me, so you could feel comfortable.. then you’re just a weak person. A kid who refuse to grow up. Don’t take it on me for choosing to stay small.
On the other hand, if someone intimidates me, that’s can be attractive to me. It can be attractive, not necessarily. It depends on many things that will tell me a lot about that person & myself.
Strong personalities, I love them. People with standards who know what they want or not, who are aware of themselves. People with integrity.
And if I feel intimidated, or a fear, I will recognize it and find the reason why is that, instead of trying to change them.
We’re like mirrors to each other.
I’m not intimidating, how about to swap perspectives?
Thus, if I’m intimidating to you and you see that as something negative.. then, how about we see another perspective, one that talks about you. Hence, I could say you’re just one weak individual, who is afraid to face your own sh.t. A victim. How this sounds to you? But it’s always easier to run away, instead of reflecting. It’s easier to blame others and justify yourself with excuses: oh she/he’s intimidating,
Remember, you can’t escape from yourself. Focus on you.
Hence why you should focus on yourself and if you haven’t’ already.. to choose your partner very carefully. You want to be accepted just as you are without feeling someone’s fear of you.
Well.. we teach others how to treat us by what we allow and what we stop. We teach others how to love us.. which requires knowing how to love yourself in the first place.
What you like and what you don’t like.. Your needs, what you want. What love means to you. And to be vocal about it. All of these is mutual and it requires communication.
But.. you should never, I repeat, you should never teach others basics. Things like respect, manners, trust, honesty, what is right or wrong.. you should never teach others basic education. It’s a matter of common sense, too.
Your partner must treat you right. And.. as usual.. Vice versa.
A relationship is a partnership. You are not there to be a parent, but a partner! And God forbid, you are not there to intimidate or to be intimidating! You must choose your equal, the one with the similar vision, values as you! The one who wants to raise the kingdom together with you.. not the one you need to raise.
Note the difference!
Do you feel exhausted, drained, tired or empowered, fulfilled?
If someone is in a relationship with you just because they need you for their selfish reasons, if they leave you nothing but drained.. don’t forget the decision is yours what to do. Someone may disrespect you, but you should never forget to respect yourself.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
Love and namaste,
Irina 💙🦄
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