Good morning you beautiful soul! 💙🙏🏻
You can’t control other people’s behaviour. And if you love someone you shouldn’t control them. That’s not a sign of love but manipulation.
You can’t change others, don’t even try to. Firstly, accept people as they are. If you like their vibe, allow them to become a part of your tribe. If you don’t like their vibe, let them go! Wanting them to change so they can fit your needs is selfishness. It has nothing to do with love, neither yourself nor the one next to you.
‘I can’t control your behavior; nor do I want that burden.. but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.’
People change when they want to. If they’re part of your life, yet stealing the peace of your soul and mind, even after you told them you were hurt by their behaviour.. you should be asking yourself.. why do you want them in your life?
Ok, you may think you care about them. You want them to appreciate you. That’s ok, it is a natural thing to expect to be respected.
But if you expect them to appreciate you and care about you just because you care about them.. you should ask yourself why do you care about someone who doesn’t care about you? Why would you want them to change and start cherishing your presence in their life?
Pay attention to how they treat you. How they treat you is more important than how much you think you love them.
Do they mistreat you?
Again, do you still care about them and what them in your life?
Dear, caring about those who mistreat you, you don’t care about yourself.. and if you don’t care about yourself, don’t expect them to care about you! Because we teach others how to treat us, by what we allow and what we stop!
Hence start loving yourself. Everything starts there. People can mistreat you but you shouldn’t mistreat yourself.
Know your standards and values. Set your boundaries. You should know your boundaries, as other people don’t know them!
If you don’t vocalize them and learn to say STOP and NO.. they will take away everything from you.. but only if you allow them!
Empathy without boundaries equals self-destruction.
‘But you see, no matter how much love I have for you and no matter how much time I’ve put into our connection, I could never tolerate mistreatment. I could never stay for what pushes me to leave, the thought of losing you doesn’t scare me as much as the thought of losing myself.’
Loving someone without having self respect equals losing yourself.
Giving without receiving makes no sense!
Everything starts with ourselves and self love.
Knowing how to love & respect yourself will help you to navigate through life, among other things, it will help you to choose the right one for you.
You can be in love with someone but it may happen that person is not good for you.
Hence why self respect will help you to get up from the table when love is no longer served.
Those who don’t know what self respect and self love mean won’t be capable of doing it.
Go where you feel loved. Go for someone who challenges you and stimulates all your senses in the right way.
Don’t waste your LOVE on those who mistreat you. Don’t waste your time on those who are on/off with you. Please, don’t put your energy into relationship where you don’t get the same desire, intensity, dedication. Don’t prioritize those who treat you as an option and who let you wondering where you’re standing at.
Make time for those who make time for you. Everything should be reciprocal as love must go both ways!
Be with someone who not only vibes with you, but also wants to continue to grow and evolve as a person.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul!
Love and namaste,
Irina 🦄💙
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