Hello you beautiful soul! 🙏🌏
You don’t find your self-worth in other person. You find your self-worth within yourself and then be with someone who’s worthy of you. Remember that, never the other way around.
Just one of the things I always emphasize, which is to always question your beliefs. Because we have been taught many things, which not only have no logic, but also completely do not resonate with us, therefore they do not give us peace or anything good.
Only one of those beliefs is that we always depend on others, in that unhealthy way, that we look at ourselves through other people’s opinion of us. To build our self-confidence through the comments of others. To focus on the exterior and mere forms, to please others and suffocate ourselves by not expressing how we feel..
That we look at our achievement as a person, success and joy through whether we are married, whether we have children, whether we have graduated from university, where we work.. and that if we have not achieved even one of these, we are considered to have failed.
Hey, I can continue about these things until tomorrow, because there are many of them, but for now I want to stick to this: we hear from a young age that we need to find our ‘other’ half, or someone who will complete us!
And that is wrong. No one taught us how to love ourselves and to UNDERSTAND THAT WE ARE WHOLE AND COMPLETE. Therefore no one needs to complete us.
And everything starts from the inside, from self-love. Nothing is done from the outside in, but goes from the inside to the outside.
You build your self-confidence, your self-worth from the inside, connecting with yourself and working on being you. Accepting yourself just as you are, and that is the starting point from where you work to become a better version of yourself every time.
Because you are valuable and no one determines your value except yourself. It is not negotiable!
As long as you look for your fulfillment and happiness in others, you will never truly be fulfilled or truly happy. The only thing you create is this harmful dependence on others. And as soon as you stop getting it, you’ll look for it in someone else.. that’s why people jump from relationship to relationship.. running away from themselves and blaming others every time they don’t get that validation of their value and happiness from others.
That is why it is necessary to spend time alone (with yourself). To connect with yourself and be aware that you are the one who is responsible for yourself, your happiness, fulfillment, value and not others.
Then when you’re looking for a partner, you’re not looking for someone who will complete you, but someone who is complementary with you. Where you are both worthy of each other’s love.
Depending on when you’re reading this, I wish you either a beautiful day or a good night, you beautiful soul! 🙏💙
Love and namaste,
Irina
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